I was having an interesting conversation with a single friend of mine about the benefits of being a single man. Like a scene from Old School, I was describing my weekend of running errands with my wife, while my buddy was saying how great it was to sleep in and do things on his schedule whenever he feels like it.
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From this conversation it hit me – my online blogging life would be so much easier if I was single. So, why is blogging easier when you’re single? Here are some of my thought, from the married perspective.
Want to build a good relationship – skip the dating scene and hit the blog scene. All you need to do is link to some sites you admire, leave some comments, and you will usually get some love in return (granted, usually in the form of link love or a mention, but if it’s from a blog you admire, it’s almost as good as getting a girl’s number!).
Then, you have all the various social media options to really connect – Facebook, Twitter, Stumble, and more. Like someone, just say so! Want to get someone’s attention, give them an “@ Mention” on Twitter. It’s that easy!
When your single, the only carnivals you have to go to are blog carnivals. No having to leave your house, deal with street vendors, and have to spend money buying flowers just because you happen to walk by a flower stand.
And since Saturday is usually a big carnival day, you don’t even need to get out of your pajamas to enjoy the festivities. Plus, if the carnival host is creative, it can be pretty fun!
Big Days For Bloggers
However, if you’re a blogger, you hold yourself to several different varieties of big days, which you remember like an anniversary:
- Best Traffic Day Ever (and the total number of visitors, and circumstances)
- You Got Mentioned in XYZ Major Site or Publication (mine was USA Today)
- First Advertising Income/Record Income Months and Amounts
Bloggers almost tell these stories like fisherman tell stories of their biggest catches!
As my friend mentioned, a relationship takes time. If you’re single, blogging is easy because you have a lot of time. If you’re married, having a blog is almost like having a sister wife. You have to balance both your wife and family, with your blog and online family. Both take care and nurture.
If you’ve ever watched the show Sister Wives or Big Love, you may think having multiple wives (or blogs) is great. But it is a challenge, and time consuming. While rewarding, it can be hard to strike a balance.
Then, you need to add in the commonalities – work, friends, favorite televisions shows, and more! You can end up burning the candle at both ends!
Readers, what are your thoughts? Is it easier to blog when you’re single? Do you ever feel like your blog is your significant other?